While there are absolutes in life, truths that are immutable and laws that govern the existence of all things physical and spiritual, there are a plethora of imponderables where perspective is the rule of the day.
Some seemingly simple things like favorite color can be quickly answered until it is the color of your dream car or your favorite t-shirt or the shade that you will someday paint the kitchen in your mountain hideaway. Those colors are rarely the same and it would kind of weird if they were. Hopefully all of our thoughts, opinions, beliefs, stands and confusions are not as fickle as object dependent color.
Challenges crop up nearly daily and we can see them as the pain and trouble that they most assuredly are or we can see that they can be more than that, they can be the divergence in the road that makes all the difference. Pain sucks there is no doubt but can it offer us something else? Can it give us sympathy for those struggling or empathy for those in a similar situation as us that previously we were not capable of? It isn’t inconceivable that suffering is just that with noting else to offer and we are guaranteed the worst, or at least the bad parts of life and its’ many offerings if we do not seek for more. “Into every life some rain must fall” so are we willing to just be wet or are we willing to splash in the puddles and have some fun in the mud? It really can be as easy as perspective. Maybe the transition takes some time but we can train ourselves to zoom out, gain a fresh,new perspective and see that there is more to it than us in this moment.
Experience shapes us and drives our behavior but what if we have such limited experience that our decisions are weak and uniformed? What if we have never faced a challenge that puts mortality right up front in our mind and refuses to let other subjects get some brain time? What if we have never lost and therefore can’t understand the reactions and emotions? Even more tragic is when we have never won, never felt that elation our minds and bodies automatically generate when it all goes right. When we have never won we tend to hate the winners because we have never stood in their shoes, never paid the price or maybe just never got that lucky.
In every situation there is a lesson. What could be done differently, better or maybe not done at all? We can never answer those questions and learn those lessons unless we can divorce ourselves from the spontaneous response, pause and make sure our perspective is first reality and secondly one from which we can gain fresh understanding.
All of this takes practice and participation in life as without experience in the full range of what mortality holds in store there is no way we can be sure of what we are looking at. This is not to encourage immoral or questionable actions but is absolutely meant to encourage action and movement with an eye for the awsomeness that is life. We can stand on top of the mountain, concerned with nothing but looking out for the fires that may come or we can appreciate the view. We can recognize that without seeing it all we may very well miss the signs of fire or danger. Scanning the horizon for smoke or tracking lightning strikes will certainly put us in place to help mitigate danger and damage but if we never see more, look for more we can never appreciate that which we are trying and preparing to protect. So are we standing on a scenic overlook or a fire lookout tower? I say that we must be sure that where we are standing is both. We must look to the strength and beauty that existence has to offer and be more than willing to face the ugly, dangerous parts so that they have contrast, have meaning and value.